I have a weakness for duck. I love it, I once had it in a restaurant, where the duck was so damn good, I’ve been looking for that same taste ever since. While I barely eat/cook duck at home, I usually eat it at my boyfriend his parents’ place. But this time, my boyfriend and I decided to give duck another try in our (very small) kitchen.



  • 1 (young) duck around (2,25kg)
  • 1 tsp seasalt
  • 1 tsp pepper
  • 1 tsp five-spice powder
  • 1 tbs soysauce
  • 2 tbs liquid honey
  • 2 tbs Chinese black vinegar (or lemonjuice)

For the plumsauce

  • 1 tablespoon olive oil
  • 1 tsp  ginger zest (optional)
  • 3 ripe plums
  • 1/2 tsp five-spice powder
  • 1 cinnamon stick (small)
  • 2 tbs Chinese rice vinegar
  • 4 tbs brown sugar
  • 1 – 2 tbs water

What’s Next?

  1. Preheat the oven on 200 Celsius degrees.
  2. Remove as much fast around the duck as you can. Don’t remove the skin.
  3. slice cuts in the duck (example: in the skin. Unless you only have one side of skin)
  4. In a small bowl, mix the salt, five-spice powder and the pepper together.
  5. Rub that over the duck, in the slices, everywhere.
  6. Put in the oven with the chest up (or the no-skin-part up) for 30 minutes in a roasting pan/tray.
    Note: Depending on the size of the duck it should be 30 minutes. Is the duck around 2,25 kg, then it should be 30 kg. Does it weight less, then it shouldn’t go that long into the oven, or else it will become very dry. Dry duck isn’t tasty.
  1. In meanwhile mix the soy sauce, honey and black Chinese vinegar/lemon juice in a bowl.
  2. When the duck is done in the oven, you carefully pour some of this mixture over the duck.
  3. Pour a coup of water in the roasting pan/tray.
  4. Lower the oven temperature to 170 Celsius degrees.
  5. Bake the duck another 75 minutes to 90 minutes. Depending on the size until it’s soft and barely cooked.
  6. While baking, pour some of the soy sauce/honey mix onto the duck every half hour.


  1. Make the plumsauce while the duck is in the oven.
  2. Heat up a bit of oil in a (frying)pan
  3. Add ginger (optional) and bake it for 1-2 minutes until they’ve become light brown.
  4. Undo the plums from their skin and cut them in pieces.
  5. Add the plum, five-spice powder, sugar, chinese rice vinegar and cinnamon in the pan.
  6. Scoop it around and let it simmer for 15 minutes, until the mixture is jam-like.
  7. When you’re done, you can either serve it warm, or on room-temperature.

When the duck is done…

  1. Cover the cooked duck up in tin foil and let it rest for 15 minutes on a warm place.
  2. Cut it in pieces and serve with rice, plumsauce and vegetables.
We served it with asparagus.

We served it with asparagus.

Gordon Ramsey


Yellow Fever?

I saw a post floating around Facebook, and I felt like saying my own words about this “issue”.

I am together with a Chinese guy. Together, as in; he is my boyfriend and I am his girlfriend. Even though we live in a pretty modern world, people still are surprised when they figure out that my boyfriend looks Chinese. It’s more normal these days, but people still look weird at you, or ask you questions that can be offending. I get a lot of questions thrown at me.

  • Is his penis small?
  • How is your sex life?
  • Why do you have with a Chinese?
  • What is it with you and Chinese guys?
  • Do you speak his language?
  • Do you eat rice everyday?
  • Can/Do you eat with chopsticks?
  • So you eat Chinese everyday?
  • Is there a difference between Dutch guys and Chinese guys?
  • Did his parents like it?
  • Isn’t it weird to date a Chinese guy? (add a lot of stereotypical things in here; Chinese are dirty people, etc)

I date my boyfriend because I love him — obviously. Not because Chinese always happens to be rich, or they are great cooks. Yes, the adventure in dating him wasn’t easy with his parents, who would rather see him with a Chinese girl. But I am with him, and not with his parents. They are just an extra bonus. But I look further than his black hair and dark brown eyes. And believe me when I say that I have never met a Western guy like him (or Asian). He’s one of a kind.

Is his penis small?
Why would anyone want to know this? Curious if the stories of the stereotype Chinese guys is true? If you date a man from Africa, I really don’t want to know if his dong is big. I don’t want to know, I don’t care. All I care about is how he treats you.

But the worst part is, is when they compare it with different kind of sausages. “Is it like this one, or this one?”

How is your sex life?
My sex life is like rice with ‘it’s none of your fucking business’ and chopsticks.

These are always asked in a serious manner. I usually laugh it off and say my sex life is better than theirs. I don’t want to discuss this with people I don’t know, or barely know. Or even if I do know them, I still don’t want to discuss it. We all know how sex works (…right?), It works the same way as two white people, or two black people, or two Asians, or a white girl and an Asian guy, or the other way around.

Why on earth would you want to know about someone else’s sex life? What kind of weird satisfaction does that give you? Ew, creep.

Why do you have with a Chinese?
Why do you have a Dutch/American/African guy/girl?

What is it with you and Chinese guys?
There is nothing going on with me and Chinese or other Asian guys. I don’t have yellow fever. Yes, I do fancy Asian celebrities, but I also fancy American and Dutch celebrities that aren’t Asian. I suppose you can say that I don’t only like Asian men, My taste ranges pretty wide.

Do you speak his language?
Dutch? Yes, I speak Dutch. It’s my mother language.
Oh, you mean Chinese? Only a little. I do want to learn it in the future, but that is only in respect for his parents and other family members who do not speak English or Dutch. I do know that my boyfriend doesn’t necessarily want me to teach Chinese. We’re in Holland after all…

Do you eat rice everyday?
After years of eating potatoes, I am happy to say that yes, I do eat a lot of rice. Not everyday, but at least 4 times a week. My boyfriend likes it, I like it. So what’s the fricking problem if we eat rice almost every – fucking – day? You don’t eat here, so I don’t see a problem.

Can/Do you eat with chopsticks?
Yes I can, but no I don’t. And no we don’t eat with chopsticks at home either, nor does he, nor do we at his parents and nor do his parents. Why eat with chopsticks when you have spoons?! I’m pretty sure his mother thinks the same way. I only eat noodles or sushi with chopsticks, because it’s so much easier than using a fork, in my opinion.

And when I’m eating sushi with friends or co-workers they look at me with big eyes and a look of amazement on their face when I am eating with chopsticks. “Oh wow, can you eat with chopsticks?!” Well, I am using one, so I guess I can… Followed by teaching them how to do it and then they all fail.

So you eat Chinese everyday?
Hah. No. My boyfriend likes the typical Dutch dishes. While I love his father’s traditional Chinese dishes (they are to die for), I don’t want to eat Chinese everyday. And the westernised, Chinese food (everyone thinks that’s traditional Chinese food or something?), is filled with sugar and other things.

Is there a difference between Dutch guys and Chinese guys?
Before my boyfriend I dated a Dutch boy. He lived on a farm, and he was really a farmer. He had a flat accent, and he lacked a lot of manners. Farting, burping, picking your nose during dinner was pretty normal. But he was a piece of shit, so I dumped his sorry ass.

I don’t see that kind of behaviour in Chinese families. Beside the burping, which is pretty normal in the Chinese culture, I believe. My boyfriend isn’t one who will speak about his feelings easily, but I think almost every guy is like that. But he’s down to earth, he sees himself as a Dutch person. He speaks his mind, and his opinion which can be a bit shocking sometimes. He’s a bit fatherly sometimes. His (table) manners are perfect, and I don’t know. We respect each others privacy, he respects me. I think it’s the way how he is raised that made him that way. And money… Of course. Money is an important thing, and it will always be. But unlike people think, they won’t do everything for money.

The stereotype Chinese man lacks confident, short temper, smart, proper, boring, well mannered. My boyfriend does not lack confidence, he has no short temper AT ALL. Boring? People think he is, but I know better. During parties or with friends, he won’t always be talking. He’ll be drinking and listening, and only say a word when it’s needed. He is respectful and well mannered, compared to Western men who tend to be more arrogant, self-absorbed, after sex,  and rude in general (not saying every white guy is).

So yes, there is a huge difference between Asians and White men. As there is between Asian women and White women.

Did his parents like it?
What if they didn’t? This used to bother me in the beginning. They rather saw a Chinese girl instead of me. Now I don’t care any more, and it made the relationship between me and my mother in law better.
Isn’t it weird to date a Chinese guy? (add a lot of stereotypical things in here; Chinese are dirty people, etc)
What’s so weird about dating someone you like and love?
Photo by Grace Buchele.

Photo by Grace Buchele.

I date whoever the hell I want.

Featured image by 俊玮 戴.